Absence

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Hi everyone,

I just want to apologise if I’ve been a little absent over the last few days, this will probably continue over the next couple of weeks too. Unfortunately my dear dad (87 years young) has just received a diagnosis of kidney cancer following being rushed to hospital 3 days ago with what was thought to be a kidney stone but turned out to be an internal bleed from a tumour he didn’t even know was there! He’s still in hospital & is now suffering from chronically low kidney function & although he's stable now this will stop them removing or treating his cancer. We all know the pressure a diagnosis puts on families & we’re trying to deal with this news as best as we can. I’m sure you lovely lot will continue supporting one another & I will pop on as & when I can, I just didn’t want anyone thinking I’d just dropped out or wasn’t bothered anymore. 

Nicola 

  • Hello Nicola my condolences to you and your family. My dad passed away with prostate cancer that was controlled with drugs but it eventually spread to his bones after eighteen years so he did well. I hope that when my time comes I am surrounded by a loving family like your dad had. We have missed your presence and wise words. It’s always difficult to say the right words but you are in our thoughts.

    Julie

  • Nicola, I"m so very sorry to hear of your family's terrible challenges. My heart is with you all.

    Hugs

    Suz

  • Thank you Julie… The day before he passed we sat with him holding his hands & reminisced of our childhoods & made sure he knew how incredibly grateful we were to have him as our dad, not only for providing us with a wonderful childhood but for continuing to support us into adulthood. I wouldn’t change those few hours we had on Thursday for anything except maybe to have him back. xx

  • Dear Nikki,

    I would like to add to all the other posts to say I am so sorry for the loss of your dear father.

    I hope the out pouring of love from those people who you have supported through their treatment with your wise words will provide a little comfort at this sad time . We are all thinking of you and your Dad,

  • So sorry for you and your Mum. Pray

  • Dear Nicola 

    So very sorry to hear the sad news of your dad passing. You will always be grateful you had those special hours with your dad towards the end.  Thinking of you and your family and sending my love xxx

  • Nicola, I am so sorry to read you have lost your dad. This is a big, big loss for us to bear when it happens, but you will remember the chance you had to spend precious time with him-keep those memories close in your heart, and he will always be with you. I still speak out loud to my dad, although only my little cat wonders who I am talking to, and coming up to 41 years since he passed away I will never stop doing that and asking for advice. 

    Sarah xx


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  • Thank you for your kind words  xx