Advice

Hi Mecca  I think people will just have to take you as they find you. You shouldn't be expected to act a certain way for the benefit of other people.  It can be difficult for those who haven't been through what we have to truly understand how a cancer diagnosis feels and how it affects you. Some days are better than others but you can't predict or control when those better days will be. I'm sure your family and friends will want to push the boat out for you and hopefully they will understand that whilst you are grateful for their efforts you cannot be happy and smiling 100% of the time. Having said that it is something to look forward to during this difficult time but please don't pile more pressure on yourself worrying about pleasing others (easier said than done I know!). If you do become upset then just be honest and explain how you are feeling, if you feel you can do that.  Bev x

Bev put it perfectly!  

Alternatively, you’re always allowed happy tears so you could pretend…  And as the song goes, it’s my party, I can cry if I want to…  In extremis, there’s always the long break to powder your nose  xxx

Marie, I am reading this some time after, just wanted to say I hope you enjoyed your day xx