We have just been told that it is very unlikely that my partners cancer will be operable, even after chemo, so the plan is just to prolong his life. They have said prognosis is about 2 years.
How do i tell my daughters (11 and 8) that their dad is not gonna be around to see them grow up, that he won't be there for.prom, or exams, or first boyfriend/girlfriend? It breaks my heart thinking about having this conversation, yet I know its important that we do, so that they understand and we can plan some fun activities/trips as a family to make memories.
Feel so.isolated with this, anyone got any experiences or nuggets of information that they used/found? Or anyone else out there in a similar boat?
MJ x
Gi M_J
When my wife was diagnosed she was clear she did not want a prognosis and with our son being about 6 at the time I really struggled with that. She responded much better than expected to her cemotherapy though and he is now 22 and she is still well - living with cancer rather than anything else.
We always chose to be open with our son and there is quite a good guide on here Talking to children and teenagers and we also found the book The Secret C Straight Talking About Cancer by Julie Stokes quite helpful. We also worked closely with his schools who were very helpful.
One time when we were talking he asked what would happen to him if something happened to me too - he has seen me in hospital on a number of occasions. Fotunately Janices brother has an adopted son and has said that they would look after him when we were gone so that was a fairly straightforward question to answer.
<<hugs>>
Steve
