Both parents terminally ill

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Last year both my parents were diagnosed with terminal cancers. We have been so lucky they have lasted this long and my parents have both fought so hard but there is no more treatment for my dad now. His body is giving up. He has been in hospital for the last 10 weeks and they have now told us he will be lucky if he lasts to Christmas. 
I just don’t know how to feel. I just want the suffering to end because at times he is in so much pain but I also can’t bare the thought that I’m losing him. I feel like I have to put on a brave face because I have young kids and my mum is also receiving immunotherapy and awaiting scan results so I can’t add more stress to her. But I feel like I have been on an emotional rollercoaster for so long now. My whole world is changing and there is nothing I can do to stop it. 

  • Hi  

    Sorry to read about your parents. I lost my dad back in 2013 after a long illness and totally get the bit about on the one hand wanting the suffering to end but on the other not wanting to lose someone you love.

    I find some of the advice in your feelings when someone has cancer quite helpful with being able to recognize the emotions and accept them as valid can help to make them feel less overwhelming.

    <<hugs>>

    Steve

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  • I'm so sad for you.

    It must be very tough, I hope you have some time for yourself and someone to talk to as you need care and help too!