A month ago no symptoms and now in a hospice

J.E.M 6 months ago

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My mum over a month ago was the fit and healthiest 68 year old working full time as a teaching assistant

roll to a month later and she randomly broke her hip, has stage 4 lung cancer which is also in lymph nodes and in heart and has deteriorated so much with her breathing she is in a hospice. They have said she is too unwel for treatment but if they could get her better she may be able to have some to prolong life.

i am an only child and she is my only parent. My world has suddenly come crashing down and I can’t get over what has happened in the space of a month. I’m so shock and I wake up every morning thinking….is this actually happening

what am I going to do without my mummy? I’m so so scared of everything and can’t see a light in this tunnel

please help me

TEW30 6 months ago

Hi J.E.M. I'm so sorry to read your story, perhaps try the forum for friends and family for some support from others in your situation, I feel sad to think how my partner/ family will cope when I'm not here anymore, it's not just about the actual patient it affects everyone, sending hope and prayers to you all and hope someone can support you with all of this xx

Weliveinhope 5 months ago

Hi, I’m 31 and my Mum is 64 - our story is very similar to yours.

A month ago she was at home, able bodied and just tired whilst undergoing chemo - now she’s in hospice and bed bound. It’s been an absolutely shocking and devastatingly fast process, I’m heartbroken. My dad passed from lung cancer when I was 10 and it’s been me and my mum ever since.
I feel your pain, I can’t imagine not having her around, I am so scared of being without her and that unconditional love so early in my life.

it’s an awfully isolating experience, especially as an only child and mummy’s girl

J.E.M 5 months ago in reply to Weliveinhope

Hello

2 weeks today I lost her and I’m really not in a good way.
I’m sorry you are going through this too. I would love to talk to you more I’m not sure how to private chat on here but as our situations are so similar may be good to help each other through this shit time.

my mum went in the hospice on a Thursday absolutely fine and by Saturday evening she was gone. It happened to fast and now I can’t see life without her

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