Someday s are a struggle

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Hi everyone 

This has been a long tough road for us, back at the queen's jubilee my wife took ill, a couple of months later they had to operate and found a tumor.  We were told gallbladder cancer stage 3, they removed her gallbladder bladder and the tumor.  She then went through chemotherapy.  Last July we were told the scans look great and she looked clear.  She gets scans every 3 months, unfortunately in November we were told the cancer is back and now stage 4 and terminal with anywhere between 1 - 2 years

She is under going chemo again and immunotherapy this time. 

The other day my wife announced she only has 17 months worth of immunotherapy left and that really upset me I couldn't see the positive side.  My doctor has put me on tablets and sleeping tablets.  We have a 16 year old son, we have put a bucket list together and have done a couple of things on the list.

I find sometimes I wobble and shut down with her and my son and can take me days to get out the dark hole.

Hope this makes sense from an old 50 year old guy who is dyslexic and not the best with tech

  • Hi Scottyboy and a warm welcome to the forum though sorry you have to be here and your wife has cancer. though i don't share your wife's cancer i do share her prognosis and would like to say your doctors prognosis of 1-2 years  is not certain, i know many people years past what they were told and if immunotherapy is working well they can extend it, it's perfectly normal to have a wobble and if you need to have one then do so, as bottling up your emotions is not good for you. The positive side, you have a wonderful wife and son who you love and who love you and the chance to have many wonderful times together, experiencing new places, events or activities and making the most of the time you have, time to make some happy memories together PS if you hadn't said you were dyslexic i would never have known .I  don't know how long i have left but will make the most of it, best wishes to all your family, take care.

    Eddie