First husband now daughter

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I don’t know how to do this. Thought we were finally able to breathe. My partner died of bowel cancer 3 years ago: 6 month before he died our youngest then 8 was diagnosed with brain tumour.

His last 6mnths which we hoped wouldn’t be that )he was convinced he could turn it round to the end) I spent in and out of hospital with her radio chemo etc she’s a brave amazing funny kid and my eldest then 11 stayed home with a dad who did a lot of resting. It was lockdown. At least before he died he heard that our youngest was ok the treatment worked. I miss him every day he made us laugh and much as I thought I would not I actually started to see a bit of light again recently..

today I had the devastating news that my little ones brain tumour had come back. They can’t cure only treat and we apparently have months hopefully a year but not likely longer with a medullablastoma recurrence. I’m on my knees. I don’t know how to do this. I want to stay positive for her but it’s going to be so hard. There are always outliers please let us be one of the 5% that come back from this. 

my poor eldest also I feel so so sorry for just 14 it’s just not fair that’s not a childhood. 

  • Your situation is dreadfully painful.  I can understand your pain, though it is with such great magnitude.  What a horror, first your partner, now your youngest daughter.  You are incredibly strong, though I know you probably don’t always feel that way.  It seems that life throws incredible challenges in our way, some so much bigger and painful than others.  One wonders how he/she will get through.  Keep on persevering, continue to breathe.  Focus on the good … your eldest daughter must too be traumatized but there you have love and companionship.  I find it difficult to know what to say that might help.  I am listening/reading.  My heart goes out to you.  

    Currently my husband has incurable blood cancer.  He is not doing well though managing to some degree.  Haematologist said a number of months ago that prognosis was months ….

  • I know we will just get in with getting on.. everyone is in such a hard place I feel for you so much too 

  • Thank you, PNNN (hopefully you won’t mind my abbreviating your screen name),

    True, we all have struggles, various degrees and different times.  I too have a number of worries and concerns.  I have my spells of crying (or weeping silently).  Sleep is sometimes difficult, yet exhaustion makes things so much more difficult.

    Take care.  I am thinking of you.