Struggling to cope with mum’s terminal cancer

Things are not looking great fordad as the lymphoma has spread all around the liver and intestines and due to all his other conditions he’s not tolerated the chemo to well
So they won’t be treating his cancer
They have said he is palliative care and they think it is only weeks we have with him
mee had so much hope that he would overcome this 

Hi, I’m in my early 30s and my Mum has been diagnosed with incurable breast cancer that has spread to her liver and brain. 
I feel every word you’ve written, there’s really no way to accurately describe how isolating a feeling and experience this is - even with company. 

I’m also struggling with getting my mum to leave the house or do anything other than sit in her chair, its both comforting and heartbreaking to see others trying to do the same.

The anger, the sadness, the despair - it hurts so much. You aren’t alone in that and it’s justified. 

My dad passed away 21/04/24 

can’t get my head around it can’t believe he’s gone

Not sure if these are words of wisdom but i can relate to everything you have said. I work in an environment where stress is a norm and target driven goals are reset monthly. And to have to deal with my dad having terminal cancer at the same time is ridiculous. To have to almost forget my life outside work and put on this happy face to motivate a team is mentally draining and having to hide it from my 9 yr old who i see every other weekend and tuesdays is even harder. So when you first hear that dreaded news about 6wks to 6 months you truly dont understand the magnitude of whats about to come and how it effects you and everything youve ever thought of. To want to just forgot for 5 mins that i heard that news i hardly sleep and i know im pushing people away and could possibly lose those people in the meantime but i genuinely am at a lose to know ehat to do for the best. I feel you i appreciate you and your post more than you can imagine

I am in exactly the same boat as you. My mum is 68 I am 35 she is my only parent my best friend. She now has stage 4 lung cancer. Month ago no symptoms and now she is breathless and coughing so much. I don’t know what to do I am so scared. It’s nice to read I am not alone but also sad people are also going through this. 

i need to reach out to people as I feel so alone. 

any words of advice or support I would appreciate 

Up until the other day it did feel like i was alone and being a naturally outgoing and social person is a very strange feeling for me.
We have always been close and someone who ive looked up to for like ever and seeing him like he is to put this simply is destroying me. 

please dont think you are alone