Hi I’m new to the group.
My wife was diagnosed with stage 4 secondary breast cancer 2 days before our first child was born and I’m struggling.
Wondering if anyone had any similar experiences as it can feel very lonely caring for both her and baby.
Hi Tom,
Welcome to the group and glad you found us. My wife was diagnosed with a grade 4 brain tumour in June last year. We have two boys who are 16 and 14. At the moment we just go from MRI to MRI hoping that it doesn't come back too quickly. The boys have been a real source of support for me and I have often thought how much harder this would be if they were still young.
If you haven't already I would give Macmillan a call on 0808 808 00. As well as offering all sorts of support they may be able to signpost you to specialist charities for people with very young children like yourselves. We have had some support form the Ruth Strauss Foundation who specialise in family support when a parent has incurable cancer so might be worth trying them Additional Support - Ruth Strauss Foundation
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing. Or it may be as is the case for me that there are other local cancer charities that can support you.
Lastly, don't be afraid to call in help from family and friends. It's hard enough looking after a baby at the best of times. You'll need to take a break and look after yourself. One of my wife's friends comes over every week just so I can go out for a walk or a cycle and try not to think about cancer for a few hours.
Hope some of this is useful and please do use this group to ask questions or just vent how you're feeling.
Sending a virtual hug,
Chris
