Stage 4 Lung cancer that’s spread to the brain.

Hello Tynitinytyna

I have just read your post and am so sorry to find you in the situation you are in.  It's so hard to come to terms with a diagnosis of any Cancer and now you have been hit with a further diagnosis. You are so right to feel angry and scared.

I am sorry no one has responded to your post - so by me replying (I am from the Prostate Cancer forum) it will "bump" your post back to the top and I hope you will receive some replies.

Whilst I am here may I suggest you also join Emotional support forum where you will also find some help and advice. All you need to do is click on the link I have provided and when the page opens click "join" on the black banner at the bottom of the page.

I hope this helps - If I can do anything further for you please don't hesitate to contact me.

Kind regards - Brian.

Hello Tynitinytyna,

How are you doing?

I really feel for you, I loved my granny so much, and it sounds like you love your nan a lot as well.

My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer 2 1/2 years ago, and although it has been hard work keeping myself going through it all, I am also lucky in that I have had him for those years since diagnosis, plus I've had a lot of time to work out what makes me able to keep on going through all the fear and grief.

I have found that when I feel too distressed sometimes to sleep that if I sneak downstairs and watch the freeview Christmas movie channel (it started up in September!) for a bit, that really helps me to get myself away from my feelings enough to be able to sleep. I've also recently bought a boxset of all 10 series of Friends from a charity shop for a fiver and I love Friends, it is easy to watch and funny, and it takes my mind away from other stuff.

People always say that exercise is good for mental health, and I used to be yeah, yeah, whatever, but have gradually realised that the one thing that will get all the steam, worry and anger out of my head for a bit and my feelings sorted out for a while is a fast half hour walk - don't know how it works but it does!

My friend lost her brother to cancer recently, and she suggested to me to write down the things in my head. I didn't think that it would work, but tried it one day, it wasn't like a diary or story or anything, just some pages of ramblings from what was going on in my head, and it really surprised me that the effect was kind of like having all the stuff in my head at more of a distance and therefore easier to deal with. It was a bit like having thrown up lots of feelings and thoughts and feeling better for it, very weird, but it worked!

Everyone is different, and some things work better for some but not for others, but I hope the above is useful to you in trying to work out how to deal with all the emotional stuff you have going on just now.

Morning. 

Your story resonated with me when I read it as my mum was diagnosed with incurable stage 4 lung cancer in February. She became extremely ill extremely quickly and her body has not responded to treatment. We are now preparing for end of life and she is only 65. 

I have also always struggled with my mental health and I also struggle with anger and sadness. I too have been grieving everything we have lost because of cancer. 

I don’t really know what to do with myself as the situation cannot be changed and it is all-consuming. 

I often feel like I am the only one who feels like this but reading your post made me feel less alone.

Sending strength x

Hello BusyBee90 

I have just read your post and am so sorry you feel as you do however it's very understandable. You are not alone here and have you thought about sharing your thoughts? I am aware you are a member of "The Room" - may I suggest:

Joining the Emotional support forum . They are a good bunch.

Joining the Macmillan Buddy scheme - you can read up on this with this link:

https://www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/get-help/emotional-help/macmillan-buddies

Or - Just for some further support ring our amazing team on 0808 808 00 00 - they are happy to chat and can offer you the right sort of support.

Visit your local Maggie's centre - (You can find the details on Mr Google) - you can just drop in have a brew and put the world to rights.

You are not the only one to suffer anger and sadness - but help is at hand. I hope you find the ideas above useful and if I can do anything for you please feel free to contact me.

My best wishes to you - you are not alone by any means.

Brian.

Thank you so so much. 

I have made a note and am going to look into some of the options.

I really appreciate your prompt response.