Evening all, My loved one has been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, it’s been 3 weeks now but it doesn’t seem to have sunk in. I at the moment finding the nights hard, knowing it’s another day down - have I said enough? Have I done enough? Do she understand how much I care? Did I capture each second of it? Was I fully in the moment? It’s this overwhelming pressure and I cry most evenings, the nights seem dark and knowing the worse is yet to come, gives me an aching heart feeling. Sorry for the rant , just wondering if anyone else has any advice or felt the same?
Firstly I am very sorry for you and your partner. Having read your post and seeing no replies as yet, I just wanted to say that I am sure you are doing the very best. What struck me was that I feel you should have this very conversation with your partner. She is the best person to answer all your thoughts and concerns. Having honest conversations will open up a way forward for you both to tackle the difficult issues and topics that need to be addressed. Sending you much strength
Hello, thank you for being so kind to respond. It is not my partner, if is my family member and as they are of a different generation, they are very private and I believe try to protect us of it all. I truly never knows how she feels deep down, and I know if I was to explain they’d always say I’m doing fine. I also don’t want to make it about me. I guess it’s just an overwhelming time, especially with a time clock and every night signifies that. Sorry for the rant, thank you for your lovely comment. I hope whatever brings you here, that you have the strength and support in place.
I understand totally the significance of each nighttime arriving. It signals another small step towards the inevitability of losing our family member. I’m going through similar. My heart goes out to you.
Thank you, I know there’s not many words. But I hope you’ve got a supportive circle around you at this difficult time. Sending virtual hugs.
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