Where to get physical help?

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Hi, I am new here.

l just lost my husband from brain cancer less than one month ago. Since he was admitted to hospital, a friend of mine has been staying with me as I had nervous breakdown.

She was diagnosed incurable cancer just a week after my husband’s death. 
She doesn’t want to tell anyone at the moment and I am the only one who knows it.

Needless to say, I am not mentally and psychologically fit enough to be her caregiver even if I want to help her.

She is single, no child, no partner. 
she hasn’t started treatment yet, but I guess when she starts chemo or radiation, she will need physical and psychological help. My husband was really exhausted from the treatment and he needed my help for any daily activities. 

I wonder where she can get those help from apart from me. 

  • Have either of you contacted your Macmillan nurse? They would be a good place to start, also her GP will be able to help. She will also be entitled to PIP payments, Macmillan arranged all of that for me and my partner and we were also offered home care. There is a lot of help available, I think the key thing is asking for it. Once they know you need help, things will start to swing into place I am sure. xx

  • Thank you for your advice.

    I went to hospital with her yesterday and asked her doctor. He said the team will be introduced her when her treatment starts and they will help her to go through it, I don’t know if they are Macmillan nurse but I was told to wait for now.,,