Im so scared and need support i feel like im letting my partner down because he just comes to me for emotional support and im crumbling under pressure .
Hi there, my mum has lung cancer since summer 2020 and this summer has moved to her brain. Up until 2 weeks ago she's Bern doing so well and I have too. But she's taken a very sudden down turn and I for the first time crumbled and was so overwhelmed. I just couldn't stop crying and felt so unable to support her. However I've settled more and really do take each day as it comes. Everyday is a reset for me. I try not to carry yesterdays emotions into today. I let them go at night and set a mindset to see how the day will go. It's tough and I cannot imagine if it was my partner. Cancer is a challenging journey for the carers as well. Not sure it this helps but I thought I share to show you are not on your own, my heart goes out to you. Mum and I have been coping by being honest about each day and where she is at in her illness symptoms and this reality helps her, takes some of the fear away fir her. You aren't letting your partner down there's absolutely no right or wring way to deal with this, its ok tk feel overwhelmed its totally natural, please don't be so hard on yourself, it's ok
Thankyou for your kind words it means so much ive got friends but unless your going through the same thing they dont know how hard this is il take all your advise on board thinking of you and your mum xx
My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer in Nov 22, and I have been scared everyday since, so understand how you feel. I am scared of the future, scared how long I have left with him, scared of catching a cold and passing it on, scared of all the medication he has to take, the list goes on and on. Some days are easier than others but it’s really hard to be strong for him when I feel so scared myself. Would be happy to keep in touch if it helps x
Hi suebe your situation sounds similar .My partner was diagnosed Nov 22 and I'd always suffered anxiety for years but this was and is the scariest so ye we could support each other thanks x
This is so helpful. Thank you. I’m so tired and drained.. my dad has terminal stomach cancer. I’m terrified. This rollercoaster has been going on for 3 months. My life has stopped. I’m filled with dread and worry as to what is to come. He’s lost a stone in a week. I can’t control any of this. I want to get off the rollercoaster and I can’t. I need it to stop. I want it all to go away. I cannot cope. I send love and best wishes to you all on this horrific ride xxx
Oh you’ve just described my feelings since my strong practical rock of a dad was told a couple of weeks ago that he’s got bowel and lung cancer. We know loss is part of life and I’ve experienced many losses but this is so so hard, I have to be strong and practical for him, support mum and takeover everything he used to do as part of our family. I’m struggling with hypermobility, fibromyalgia and depression/anxiety and he’s always been there to help with so many practical things. He’s old fashioned and wouldn’t offer emotional support but last week when I took him for some more tests I said “I love you”, but what grabbed me like a painful vice was when he said “I love you too”.
I’m so sorry you’re in this position too. It’s truest heartbreaking. My dad is 69 and was fit as a fiddle. Now he’s frail and weakening by the day. I’m so scared. Feeling there is no control is the very worse part. I want to change this and I can’t. Please look after yourself in this. All we can do is offer support as best we can. I’m sending a massive hug to you and yours. I really wish you well x
