I lost my husband to cancer six years ago. Now my dad has been diagnosed with stage one lung cancer. He has emphysema and COPD and a lot of scars in his lungs. He has been told that the risks are too high to operate and his lungs have deteriorated so much that he can't have chemo or any other treatment. He was told to just go home and carry on as if he didn't know. Macmillan have been in touch with him, but my parents feel like they have been abandoned. They are both numb and in shock and can't accept that my dad's life is now limited. My dad is terrified of dying and neither of them are coping. My siblings and I are trying to do everything we can to support them but we feel so useless and don't know the best thing to say to them, to help them cope. What can we do? We are doing what we can to give them an amazing Christmas but none of us feel like it as how can we carry on as normal knowing this.
Thank you for the reply. I too rang the macmillian nurse today in floods of tears and she was fantastic. It’s just so difficult isn’t it and especially at this time of year. It’s being at a loss with not knowing what to do as there is no control over it all. But thank you so much and I do hope you make Christmas as nice as it can be for all of you 
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