Family preventing visits/controlling behaviour

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I’m not sure what to do. We are supporting my Aunty through a terminal diagnosis with months to live, no more treatment offered. She is still able to voice her opinions. Her partner is not listening to her - feeding her what he wants, not arranging necessary care and stopping others visiting her. I feel this is a safeguarding issue. What do I do? 

  • Hi JT27

    Sorry to hear about your Aunty.  Does she have a health worker, District Nurse or similar that you can contact to voice your concerns? 

    Hopefully you are still able to visit occasionally and maybe your aunty will be able to confide in you regarding any concerns she may have regarding the treatment she is experiencing from her partner. 

    Hope you can find a solution... If you are genuinely concerned that your aunt is being mistreated then ring the authorities, Social Services or the Police if you feel she is at risk.

    Regards

    Pooka 

  • HI JT27

    a warm welcome to the group. I hear you! As a family we have had something along similar lines happen to my aunt in the USA around this time last year. I'd encourage you to report your concerns if you feel there is a safeguarding issue here. 

    I'm no expert but I suspect it'll sit easier with you in the longer term if you know you have tried here. 

    You can also reach out via the helpline (number is noted below) or via the Ask An Exoert section of this community.

    I hope you get things resolved soon for your sake and your anunt's.

    love n hugs

    Wee me xx

    Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm

  • Thanks Pooka. She doesn’t have a district nurse or similar at the moment which is mind boggling but will start getting this in place. 

  • Yes it would sit better with me knowing I tried than not saying anything. It’s definitely a safeguarding issue so will be escalating this. Just makes a hard situation even harder!