Supporting my daughters

Hi Gaya so sorry to read your post, I can't imagine how difficult this must be.  I must admit I have no personal experience of your situation, but I wanted to acknowledge your post. I guess the best thing you can do is to be available to listen to your daughters when they need you and to give them space when they need that. Maybe directing them to the MacMillan website can help too as there is a lot of material available this link Link here might be useful.

Sorry not to have more practical advice but perhaps there might be others in the forum who can also advise.  Best wishes 

Hi Gaya, I've just joined, I'm a daughter of a dad who has metastatic cancer. 

I found what helped was more information you can share each time and visiting can reveal more when we see how they are. Mum and I see similar symtoms and is less emotional on her having to explain.

Its been about maing memories for me and dad enjoys looking forward to days out or visits and planning holidays.(some holidays were changed but they have been away). Being able to face the reality and then remembering the good things or looking forward to the next picks my mood up and it does for all of us.

I got help from a local cancer advice center and they listened and understood and they are not as emotionally involved. 

Mum and i have chats how he really is and cncerns when needed, we are supporting each other. 

Hello , can I firstly say sorry to hear of your dad's condition. Thank you so much for your kind words, and advice on cancer centre, I feel any advice is so helpful at the moment as words and emotions sometimes escape me, thanks again. 

Thank you for your helpful and kind words and guidance. 

Hi Gaya, 

Firstly i'm so sorry to read what you're all going through. My dad has recently been diagnosed with incurable cancer, my mum and dad seperated many years ago. From a daughters perspective, I just want my mum to be there if i need a cry or a hug or someone to listen to my worries. There is nothing more I would want, she has offered to look after my little girl if I need to rush to be with dad in terms of practical stuff. 

I have also tried to be there for her, I have said to my mum that it must be strange for her also as her and my dad were married and have two children together and they don't speak so it must be quite a strange place to sit. She appreciated that I thought of her and we both had a little cry together but I thought it was important to validate her feelings about it. 

Sorry if that is no help! Just thought i'd say my perspective, honestly I just want my mum to be there for a hug if I need one and that is more than enough :) 

Sending love x

Hello MissBrightside 19,, I am so sorry to hear your story and wanted to say such a big thank you for taking the time to to help someone else when you and your family are coping with so much. I cannot thank you enough for your supporting helpful words, it has helped immensly as our situations are very similar,  hearing thoughts from a daughters perspective and helps me understand how i can try to help her needs. . Thank you again.

Our thoughts are with you and your family X     

Thank you for your kind help and information.

Thank you that’s such a lovely reply. My inbox is always open if you need a chat x