Just waiting

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My wife was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer in early October, to date everyone, after the initial debacle, has been great, our Doctor, the McMillan nurses  the hospice, everybody, but it still feels like we are stood on  a couple of land mines not knowing when they will explode, given 6 months she is now in not so much as pain as not wanting to leave home! And risk being a way from home, we did a bucket list of things to do, have done some including going up in a light aircraft and flying over landmarks we knew, but we are walking down a path we no experience of walking, does anyone else have a similar feeling, the one that says, great day but hold on should we be having that now.

I know I will lose the love of my life, and a lot sooner than we had planned, and we will not enjoy our retirement together, she is 64,I will always remember the good and bad times, but at least, I have been fortunate to spend time and love her.

  • Hi Sothern Jessie, so sorry to hear about your wife's diagnosis. It's such a cruel illness isn't it.

    It's lovely to hear that you have made a bucket list & going out doing things & having good days.

    It's my dad that is ill & we are on borrowed time as he wasn't meant to see 2022 but he has!!! My mum & dad still get out & have good days, it may only be a 5 minute walk around the village but it helps my dad as he hates sitting in front of the tv, they seem more in love than ever & both live every minute they have left together to the full & make memories. They also keep the humour going so please please do not feel like you shouldn't be having good days because you should as these memories will last forever.

    Big hugs to you & your family x

  • Hi Budderfly 21

    thank you for your kind words, and likewise hugs and thoughts with you and your family, we .like your parents are trying to spend as much time as we can building memories, a few left on list also, but some great memories to keep, including taking the whole family away for week in one house, children, grandchildren and dogs, oh and ex son in law and his partner, bit to complex to explain in the message, full madhouse for the week but, so much laughter and fun, and probably the first time in years that all of us have been together in one place.

    Here’s hoping your dad continues to beat expectations

    Best Wishes

  • Hi Sothern Jessie

    So glad you are making such wonderful memories.

    Your family sound very similar to mine even down to the ex sister in law & her partner & children spending time all together.

    Keep making those beautiful memories as they will always be there for you. I've made a slide show for the family of my dad's life so we all have that to look at when we don't have him with us.

    Much love to you all x