My mum’s rapid decline

Hi Southy0311

Welcome to this forum, as difficult as it must have been for you to put your post on here, I hope you get some support and the information that you need to help you in someway, to cope with the coming weeks and months.  I am sorry to read that your Mum has incurable lung cancer and is to ill to undergo treatment. 

It is difficult indeed to watch loved ones go downhill so quickly and I don't feel that your question, wanting to know what might be coming ,is strange at all. Fortunately Macmillan have an entire area dedicated to those very questions HERE, 

I do hope that there is some information in that section, that is of benefit for you, and also that your new employees are understanding as you travel on this journey. 

My thoughts are with you and your Mum. 

Sending strength to you both

Lowe'

Hi, this is my first post also. My Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 terminal lung cancer in October also and I feel all the same things as you. He is also too poorly for chemo as he also has lymphoma. I also feel exactly the same as you when will you know. My dad has lost so much weight over the last few weeks and has just come out of hospital having had pneumonia, I am also asking myself exactly the same questions as you have .

Thank you so much for replying - to have people to talk to who know and understand the rollercoaster of emotions is so helpful x

I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Life can be so tough sometimes can’t it? I’m also trying to stay happy for the rest of the family - especially our 12 year old who is so excited about Christmas and all I keep thinking is that it’ll be mum’s last.

keep in touch - I think we can both relate to how we’re feeling. I just wish we knew the exact time frame and what will be around the corner. Sending you love x

Hi, sadly my Dad passed away on Friday morning. It was all very sudden and seemed to happen so quickly although he was so poorly. It has been very hard but I am at total peace knowing he doesn’t have to fight or struggle anymore. I am so sorry to have to tell you this news as I am sure there is an element that will hit home. I wish you all the best and send lots of positive thoughts your way. 

echichestermiles

Condolences to you at the passing of your Dad, your total peace attitude is such a positive acknowledgement of your Dad's personal cancer fight.

Sending Love and Light to you for the days ahead 

Lowe'

Southy

Reach out ant time, the road can be bumpy at times x

Lowe'

Oh I’m so sorry for your loss. It definitely did hit home and I feel so sad for you. I’m glad you’re at peace and like you say, he doesn’t have to feel pain anymore. Lots of love to you and your family x

Hi can totally understand everything your going through . My mum was diagnosed end of august after having a brain tumour removed . Mums cancer is in her lung and pockets in her brain . They couldn’t offer my mum any treatment as she wasn’t strong enough . In the past of couple of weeks mums started to  deteriorate she’s getting bad headaches , being sick and no bladder control . The doctors gave my mum 3/6 months it’s utter heartbreaking she’s only 69 . My mums in a nursing home as my dad was unable to care for her at home . I’m meant to be having my mum and dad at my house for Xmas and really hoping we can have one last Xmas together but can’t help really so anxious that we won’t . 

Hi I was following the posts here with heart felt empathy. I lost my dad this year and I cared for him for three months.. I felt and still feel the peace you are feeling and I’m sending you much love echichester and Southy0311.

My best friend had lymphoma but she suddenly was also diagnosed with stage 4 gall bladder cancer snd passed away within two days in August and now my partner has  stage 4 prostate cancer with bone and lung mets. We found out 6 weeks ago but although incurable it’s responding to treatment and so it may be put into hibernation for months or even years. They are all different but this is the most uncertainty I have ever felt. So I’m learning the hard way that there are some things in life that we will require to accept that the agonising uncertainty is just one more way that cancer reminds us how cruel it is. 
Sending big hugs.. xx