Hi Everyone
My mother was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer 2 months. I have seen her CT scan and she has multiple lesions (15+) throughout her brain which range from quite small to golf ball size. Over the last 2 months her mobility has reduced drastically, she has aged rapidly, has suffered from quite a few falls, her short term memory has definitely been affected and she has started to become confused (but not all the time thankfully). I live 170 miles away from her and so have effectively moved back into her house and despite good support from my family back home, I do feel a little isolated as well as grappling my mother’s rapidly developing illness. My sister was also diagnosed with a terminal cancer 3 days after my mother, so we also have this to be dealt with at the same time. All in all, it’s been a challenging couple of months and the challenges will just grow as we go forward.
I have a simple sounding question although I suspect that there is not a simple answer - how will things go from here? I’ve read a lot of stuff on the internet but it’s either v medical, generalised or emotive, so nit all that helpful in helping me judge what the coming growing storm will bring and when. She’s been given a 3-6 month prognosis and we are 2 months into this. She does not want to know the prognosis and neither does my sister or her family - I find being the only person who know this quite hard to deal with sometimes especially when my mother talks about future events that clearly are ever going to happen even if she manages to struggle beyond the 3-6 month prognosis. Things can feel pretty bleak at times, although thankfully she is still good company most of the time and is dealing with all this with remarkable resilience, although I can see the resilience has weakened recently.
Thoughts on how to deal with and judge what the near future will bring, gratefully received.
