My mum has terminal cancer

FormerMember over 3 years ago

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My mum has terminal cancer and the prognosis is 3 months. We tried to respect her wishes and keep her at home but she soon became dehydrated and then very disorientated and agitated. She wouldn’t eat we ended up having to take her to hospital. She has now been discharged to a nursing home as she has regained her faculties. But we have become very aware we can’t cope at home with her it’s just too much trying to keep her safe. She is very agitated again and wants to go home. I feel we have let her down. I just wanted to do the right thing by her!

panic over 3 years ago

I just wanted to do the right thing by her!

And you have.

Your mum is now in a place where she can receive the best care provided by professionals.

Your focus can now shift from caring and protecting to comforting your Mum.

While your Mum may disagree, just ask yourself one question, "Where will Mum get the best possible care?".

Many have been in the same spot you find yourself in - feeling that they have let their loved one down. In reality, you have made the hardest decision - you have put your Mums safety, welfare and comfort ahead of your own expectations of yourself.

This can't have been an easy decision to make but be comforted by the fact that everything you have done or tried to do has been to provide care, support and comfort to your Mum.

Hang in there.

Peace,
Ewen :-)

The day after your journey ends, the sun will still rise.

As will you.

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