I'm struggling mentally right now

Dear Savona16 

I am sorry to hear about your Dad. Of course it will have this effect - you obviously love him. It is not easy. My Mum was diagnosed with anaplastic thyroid cancer last June and sadly she died in November. 

I cried a lot - every day at the beginning, whilst on the bus, in shops, at work. I wanted to say so much to Mum but I knew that I would only cry whilst telling her how much she meant to me and that would only distress her. 

So I wrote her a long letter telling her what she meant to me and how thankful I was for everything she had done, both big and small. This helped me greatly as I felt that she really knew how deeply loved she was by me and albeit I could not cover everything, I felt that she knew how much I loved her. This was of great comfort to me. 

The family also created videos of us chatting, asking questions about her life .. basically mini interviews .. and she passed on recipes, her childhood memories etc. .. this exercise helped us all. 

Just remember that you need to look after yourself too so go for walks, go to the cinema. You will need your strength. Also talk to family and friends. 

It will not be easy and seeing a much loved parent suffering is horrible but you will want them to help them in ever way you can and that will help. 

Hi , I know from your posts in Carers that you are expecting a baby and I'd really urge you to see your GP very soon and ask for help. You should be able to get counselling to help cope, but in the meantime, you might like to try Maggies Centres to see if there's one near you. They run courses to help with the emotional side for carers and people speak very highly of them.

Love and hugs,