My mum has no more treatment options

,Such a difficult time, turbulent.  I hope that you all find a way to adjust to this period of time. And being so pregnant in the mix too, must be a swirl of emotions. I hope you all find ways  of being with each other and hearing each other. Wishing you courage and time to breathe.  

Jen0112,

I lost my mother when she was 63 and I have two kids who will grow up without her influence. I felt the way you do and still do. I have written elsewhere on here but what has gotten me through is living in my mother's honor. I try to not let a day go by when I don't tell my two girls something about their grandma or let them know grandma would have loved something that just happened. They will grow up knowing about my mother even if they have few memories of her in person. I have also taken over some of the things my mother liked to do which keeps her in my memory as well. Right now I am fast approaching the first anniversary of her death and before now, maybe two months was the longest I ever went without seeing her and maybe two weeks without hearing her voice. We have decided to host a party in her honor and are inviting all her friends and our family to stop by, have some food and just remember her. 

On a side note, just last week someone stopped me and told me that my mother had given her a quilt that she had sewn together but needed it hand stitched. My mother was originally going to sell it at a quilt auction. This kind person is going to give it to me instead. Even now my mother is still present in my life. 

Best wishes

So sorry to hear your news .

i also am going through this painful process my mum had a call 23rd June was taken to hospital were they noted she had tumors to her brain (this effected her mobility she was unable to walk )

she had some of the tumor removed on the 24th June (which was her birthday) we have since found out that it was secondary cancer and it is now spread to lung ,kidney and groin and we have been advised we have a matter of weeks with her .

it must be hard for you during your pregnancy but please rember your mother will always be with you 

Thanks for all the messages. So sorry to hear about your mum Mwood. It’s an awful awful time. Nothing can ever prepare you for it. My mum is looking/feeling okay at the moment, so I’m doing my best to spend as much time with her as possible, as you say without causing any alarm to mum. Our situations sound very similar as my mum also would not like us to change plans, bring things forward on her account as that would scare her. I’m the strong one in my family, my sister is falling apart so I feel such a strain to keep things going for my mum. I have zero energy in my pregnancy and not sleeping well with all the worry, so now I’m worrying that I could be putting my own health at rush, which scares me but I can’t see any other options. 

I'm so sorry for your news. It must be so emotional and frustrating for you too, as well as being pregnant, it's sometimes too much to handle.

Do take care of yourself as you will need to be strong. 

My husband is 48 and it's been a complete whirlwind of an experience. We were informed in July he is now on palliative care. It's just devastating. I'm new to the site, but I feel that I can connect to others who will understand what we are going through.

We have a fantastic Macmillan Nurse, who comes to see us whenever we need her. 

Sending you massive amounts of love and hugs, during this difficult time. x