My dad was diagnosed with advanced cancer (stage iv oesaphageal cancer with mets in lymph nodes and liver) in March. He has collapsed due to pulmonary embolisms and bleeds. He had no symptoms until beginning of May and since then has had 4 hospital admissions. He did one Round of chemo but no further treatment since mid May. He is declining now and has lost quite a lot of weight and is only eating very small meals. He is starting to become weak and is largely housebound due to his fatigue. He is now sleeping/ in bed 18 hours a day (only up 2-3 hours maximum at a time). Every few days he vomits (seems like his food builds up or something) despite having regular medication to keep nausea at bay. Also having constipation issues. He still engages with us a little, but seems withdrawn. He still does puzzles and reads the paper. I’m after opinions- does this seem like we are nearing end of life? Days, weeks, months based on my description? I know no one really knows but just trying to prepare myself. Thanks
Hello , I feel I can’t answer your question but I think it’s great that your Dad is still enjoying puzzles and reading the paper. You mentioned preparing yourself so I wondered if you had read this section on Macmillan,
I have to say my mum was showing signs of being near the end and we gathered for a few days around her bed on instructions from the nursing home and I had to leave as my daughter was flying off to Japan to work. She then rallied and had a good few months (in number and enjoyment) before she passed away.
I wish you luck for preparing yourself, and making good memories until that time comes.
Take care KT
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