How do you cope?

Hi, I know how hard it is. My dad was here a few months back. I would say it’s massively important you find time for yourself, and try and keep as Norma, a routine as possible. You can’t stop your life. 

One day at a time.

That should be the motto of this place.

Hi can I welcome you to the online community and Express my sorrow on reading about your mum it is very understandable that your emotions are all over the place and has given you a burst of unwanted energy.

With the news about your mum and the pressures you are experiencing with your husband it is important that you don't bottle things up, you will find that this is a very safe place to come along to whenever you feel the need to rant or rave and let off steam the members won't mind and won't judge you they just want you to know that whenever you need their help and support they are here for you. If you want to come on for a chat there is usually someone about to chat with, whatever you are comfortable doing is okay with the members.

You must take time to look after yourself and don't feel guilty if you decide to walk away from everything for a morning to have coffee or a drink with your friends who you shouldn't shut out as this time, they may not understand how you are feeling but just being with them will be a great comfort and true friends won't mind you showing your emotions.

It's good that you are exploring ways to help yourself if we can be of any help in finding support groups please let us know.

Please remember we are here for you at all times to give you help and support, all you have to do is ask and the members will rally round to give you the support you need.

Ian

Hi Lollipop,

my Dad has incurable pancreatic cancer though he is currently well and stable, the result of weekly chemo I think.

i too have found my emotions all over the place because I know his prognosis is poor & he’s on borrowed time.

i can be laughing about something and suddenly it turns to tears without any particular reason!

or, if my husband, who has been very supportive practically speaking but I suspectfinds my emotional state a challenge, if we argue over something trivial - that can set me off. I have explained it’s not his fault or a reflection of our relationship, just the pressure i’m feeling at the minute.

It is by far the hardest thing I have ever had to face, but face it we must.  

Be strong, you are not alone.  Even just coming on here to read peoples experience can help.

you do have to be kind to yourself & if you feel like a good blub - then do, it’s a release & you’ll feel better for it. Have a warm bath & let it go.

my friend, who also lost her dad to cancer told me it’s like living on a knife edge, you just never know when that feeling will wash over you. 

Good Luck, I hope you find a way to get through this that works for you.

MM

I am so sorry to hear that.  Thank you so much for being kind enough to share your story xx