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Hi Pinkflodd (great taste in music BTW).

Sorry to hear your news, and a sad welcome to the club no one wants to join. This disease is awful, there's no other way to describe it (well, there is but I don't think the forum admins are keen on that kind of language!). I lost my Dad at 24 (stage4 bowel cancer), and was in the army at that time, so was in another country went it all went wrong. I was sent home on compassionate grounds at the time, but the journey seemed to take forever. I'm now going through the same again with my Mum (secondary liver cancer) and am in the position that you're possibly going to be in when you go to college. 

It isn't easy being a distance away, but it is possible to juggle things. From what you've put in your post it does seem like your Dad wants you to go ahead with your plans, and start this next step in your life.

I guess all I can really say is that there is no right way and no wrong way to deal with what you're facing, you do what YOU need to just to get by. I find it helps to have a good rant on here, I don't even think about whether anyone might even be reading what I post, as that doesn't matter. It's a good place to offload all the crap when you have a bad day, and I've found that pretty much everyone understands, as we're all in the same boat.

Taks care (and listen to shine on you crazy diamond more often)

C

hello, and wow, thank you so much for taking out the time to respond. 

i am so sorry for your loss and the fact that you have to go through everything all over again. this is not easy and i wouldn’t wish this pain on anyone. my dad just came home on hospice. i’m so relived he’s here, and i can spend as much time as i can with him. i hated him being in the hospital, leaving him every night to be alone. he’s on a lot of pain medication, and we all just want him to be comfortable. i just want to talk to him, though, but the medication makes it so hard to actually find himself in there. i can’t believe this is happening, still. 

thank you, my dad’s favorite band is pink floyd. he has a tattoo of the dark side of the moon on his bicep, i’m getting it today on my forearm. it’s so hard to listen to them now, he would always say “wish you were here” was our song. now it just kills me. also, thank you for your service. best of luck with everything, thinking of you and your family. 

Don't mention it!

Brought back a lot of memories reading your post. Glad to hear your dad is now home and you're able to spend time with him! Take care of yourself as well, as the worst part of this horrible disease is that it isn't just the person who has it who is affected, it affects the whole family. If you need a good rant then this is a really good place to offload, as I said no one judges you here as we're all on the same awful ride.

Thoughts are with you.