Hi everyone,
I'm Rachel, I'm 35 and I live in London. My Mum, who was previously really heathy and fit, was suddenly diagnosed with cancer of unknown primary in December. By Feb they figured out it was Primary Liver, which is weird because she has no risk factors for that, bad luck I guess. By the time she was put on Lenvatinib she was very poorly. She seemed to be doing well on it and have more energy and few side effects. Unfortunately it only worked for maybe a month, 6 weeks, and she was taken off it 2 months after she started it after there was evidence from multiple blood tests and another ct scan that it was no longer holding back the cancer. We were offered chemo (which doesn't generally work for hcc) but 3 days before she was due to begin it, she was hospitalised with an infection. 2 weeks later she still had the infection and also fluid buildup in her lungs and abdomen. She was given terminal status last Thurs and is coming home from the hospital and off all treatment tomorrow to die at home. I had a strong inkling she would be terminal when I realised they weren't able to operate but she wanted to be ignorant and hopeful so I didn't interfere with that. Even so, I thought she'd have more time and it's a big shock.
Rachel
Welcome to the club that no one wanted to join. There is lots of information in this forum and support if needed. It provided a great sense of comfort for me in that I wasn't dealing with this alone when my own mother was going through the same thing. It has also been a great source of support in the months after my mother passed away. Hang in there.
Best wishes
I’m so sorry Rachel. You are facing what most people in this group will need to face one day, and I’m sure that there are many that already have walked that path. I’m 32 and also have a mum with an incurable diagnosis, it feels far too soon. The speed of everything must be a terrible shock, so whilst I don’t have any advice I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of your family at this difficult time.
Hi Rachel
I am sorry to hear your mum is so ill, my brother also has very little time left. I'm currently at work and am doing my best to keep it together but it is difficult. I am hoping that once he is discharged from hospital next Monday we will still have some time.
Take care
Jane
Hi guys,
Thanks for your replies - no one writes back in the liver forum so I wasn't sure I'd get responses! It's comforting to know that others are experiencing similar situations. We got Mum home and it's much better here, no noisy patients, no unnecessary medical stuff, etc. We've been having one of her old friends visit every day and say goodbye. She does need a lot of care night and day and myself, my sister and Dad are sharing the load. No one is sure when the inevitable end will come so we're taking it day by day. How is everyone else getting on?
Best,
Rachel
Hi Rachel,
I don't think there''s any right words when facing losing someone so close but I'm glad your mum is finding being at home more peaceful, My dad has recently been diagnosed with terminal kidney cancer and I know this is a pathway I will walk also. It can't be easy at all, please know my thoughts are with you x I am glad your mum is getting to speak to her loved ones x Maybe the local Marie Curie Nurses could help with the care load if it offers you more quality time with mum? thinking of you x
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