Today is the 10th week of my wifes passing.......in 2 hours!...............after a six year cancer journey. Her positivity....use of her strong and aligned mind to face the tasks ahead were inspiring but ultimately it ended
After 46 years of a deeply intense relationship ( we were not blessed by children) my very best friend /inspiration/ educator/banter queen and humour partner is at rest..................I can not even guess how to yet touch the edges of this loss as she was my centre. I have a great local community and friends but need wider support so hoping to learn in this environment. .............. I have had to delete my lady from the many whatsapp groups we were in.....it feels like a betrayal! Already did the clothes last week,,,,,,,including party and formal dresses to a local school so some of the girls will have free access for Prom.made me feel good but 40 other black bags of clothes for re-use/recycling and completed probate..........been busy. But it also feels that formalising things...all necessary... is giving a harder full stop than her actual passing
Any tips re loss and guilt mechanisms that might help my ever swirling brain would be most welcome and I wish all on their journey's the best support you can get.....it is out there for both patients and families ........good luck
Hi Luckysadman and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife.
I have no experience to bring to the table but talking with others may well help.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend that you look to join and put up your own post in our dedicated……..
Bereaved Family and Friends Support Group.
…….. support group.
This group is a safe place to talk to others navigating the same experiences, to ask questions and get support.
To connect in with the group please click on the link above……. then once the group page opens you will see a [Black - Click to Join - Banner] at the bottom of the page, click in this box and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
You can then introduce yourself to the group by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
As always the Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides practical information, emotional support, or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
