Hi Folks, Almost 20 years ago now, we lost our mam to cancer. I still battle with a few things from that but life goes on, and last year dad was given his cancer diagnosis. Told it was untreatable due to other health conditions and he's struggling more lately. I have guilt as I live away from home but I make the trip once month/two months and increasing that but trying to manage that round work.
I know it's getting him down and his mobility is getting worse, so I'm just looking for some advice or suggestions of how to help with his mental health as well as some of the physical help? He's not going to make a trip to anything face to face but I came across this site tonight, so was going to send it to him and then he'd have the chance to share with people who know exactly what he's going through.
As a result, he might see my post and rubbish attempt at changing my name. I think I might start using the site myself too for support. I don't want to come across patronising or too soppy he won't like that. We try and bring sarcasm and humour in to the situation but that's dependant on how he's feeling obviously.
Thank you and love to you all going through the sh!te that is cancer and everything it brings xx
Hi MegMeg and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.
I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community, and although I was the one with cancer I know how difficult it can be for the whole family.
The online community is divided into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group as you'll then connect directly with others who are in a similar situation to you and your dad.
To join, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could put something about your dad's diagnosis into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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