Hi 
sorry I’m new here and to this whole thing
my mum was diagnosed 4 months ago and they said without treatment she had a matter of months, she hasn’t been well enough for any treatment yet so … 
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the reason I’m here right now is today I cried for the 1st time, I know I should be strong but today I dont feel it. I’m so very alone, I have no one to talk to about it I have 4 siblings but I’m the oldest so need to be there for them. Everyone expects me to hold the family together but tonight I feel powerless and weak
I was just sitting here crying and scrolling my contacts looking for someone I could call or text but there is no one. It’s too late to speak to a friend, my husband is away with bad signal and also he would be devastated to know I’m feeling so sad with him not here.
on top of it all I’m so very angry with my dad he is being awful about taking mum to hospital etc but my younger siblings just shrug it off so now I’m thinking I’m being irrational?
sorry I’m just blurting it all out, I came to this website to find a number to call I guess like the Samaritans but it’s only open to 8pm so I’m hoping writing all the stuff down will ease my mind.
I’m not asking for anything, just clearing my head
If you’ve read this far thank you, I wish you all love x
Hi Oldest daughter of 5 and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer or cancer support challenges can help a lot.
This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we try to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms)……… but you don’t say what type of cancer your mum has…….. but if you care to have a look through THIS LIST you will find all our dedicated cancer support groups listed…… it’s so important to get the right group as not all cancers react in the same way.
These groups are safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same journey.
Have a look through the LIST above and once you find the support group for your………. cancer type....... click on the link and when the group page opens you will see a [Black - Click to Join - Banner] at the bottom of the page, click in this box and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
As for the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your mum and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……..
Carers only (if you are their caregiver)
Supporting someone with incurable cancer
……support groups where you will connect with others navigating the same support challenges.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((hugs))
Hi May6 and a warm welcome to you….. the community has various support routes……
If you care to have a look through this link Cancer Specific Groups you will find all our dedicated cancer support groups listed.
Whatever someone's experiences and journey this link Cancer Experiences Group has many groups covering all aspects cancer journey both Patients, Spouses, Partners, Carers, Family and Friends.
((hugs))
No need to delete, this is just our area on the community where we can help folks navigate the site.
Once you join the various group and interact with the members there may be times when you want to change a post or even delete it…… this can be done through the ‘MORE’ tab at the bottom ((hugs))
