Hello everyone, a while ago my dad had to have his right eye removed due to a tumour behind it. One of my main struggles is that when visiting him in hospital for the first time we were told that everything would be covered up and he’d be awake, instead i seen the full extent of what they had to do during the operation and it’s kind of scarred me. i find it really hard not seeing my dad in that way most nights when im trying to sleep or in the morning when i wake up and it’s really really difficult.
he had a round of chemo and radiotherapy and things were going well, however he’s had to have another round of the chemo as they’ve found more cancer elsewhere in his lung etc.
Im personally really struggling to think positively about things and haven’t been able to work due to my anxiety over everything. I’ve never had a councillor session or any kind of therapy as even when i speak to my girlfriend about it i choke up and can’t talk. Very tough point for my family and i’m struggling to get through it.
Thanks for reading:)
Hi Yanited and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis and the challenges you are facing.
A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer type or support challenges will help you a lot……. I have a completely different type of cancer and treatment journey.
This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we look to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend you look to join and post in our……
……. support group.
This group is a safe place to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same support journey.
As for the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your dad and indeed yourself and the family you may benefit from joining and posting in our……
Carers only (if you are his main caregiver)
……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and give support to all the family.
Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community ((hugs))
