My wonderful wife

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Hello

My wonderful wife of 57 years has just been told she has an incurable brain tumor and has been given a brutal prognosis of just about four months to live without treatment and a out eight months with radio therapy.

I'm desperately looking for some hope. I simply can't believe the terrible situation we are now in.

Any advice on how to handle this will be hugely appreciated.

Thank you

John

  • Hi John  and a very warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but sorry to hear about your wife’s diagnosis. 

    A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' cancer type or support challenges will help you a lot……. (I have a completely different type of incurable cancer and treatment journey)

    This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we look to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support.

    The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) so can I recommend you look to join and post in our……

        Brain tumours

        Glioblastoma multiforme  (I see you have joined) 

    ……. support groups.

    These groups are safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support from family members who are navigating the same support journey.

    As for the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your wife and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our……

         Carers only

         Supporting someone with incurable cancer

    ……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.

    To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [Black - Click to Join - Banner] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.

    When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [+ Create new post] or [+] in the top right of the group page.

    You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.

    It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.

    The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.

    Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.

    Do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.

    Mike (Thehighlander)

    It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

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  • so sorry to read about your news. 
    I’ve just received a diagnosis myself.

    i think the only “advice” i can give (& I am by no means the expert here, so I sincerely apologise)…just take it one day at a time; enjoy every second with each other; try to build as many memories (health permitting); and try to focus on what you can actually control (I find this a tough one). 

    sending a lot of strengthen, positive vibes your way! 

  • Thank you. I wish you well too.

    Very best wishes for a good outcome.