Hi
Mum was diagnosed with stage 4 womb cancer in December and suffered a blood clot on her lung in January. She has been having chemo and we were told that there was positive signs the cancer was reacting to this. She had been sick through the chemo and we needed to visit an and e several times where they have her a saline drip, topped up her electrolyte levels and sent her on her way. 6 weeks ago we took her down to a and e for sickness again. They told us then that it looked like she was vomiting faecal fluid and decided to do a ct scan where they said they thought she had a blockage in her small intestine. No other scans have been done. A week and half ago we were told that there is nothing more they can do and she would be sent home with palliative care. She hasn’t opened her bowels in weeks now, she has a ng tube draining her stomach from build up. She is so well, apart from having no energy due to hardly eating in 4 weeks. Her oncologist has said no more treatment. I just don’t understand how we have got here from them just saying it might be an obstruction and then not trying to get a more detailed scan. I feel like she has been given up on :(
Hi Becky1484 and welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your mum.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help you a lot.
This New to Community area is like our reception desk where we try to direct you to the best part of the Community for you to get support. The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your mum and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our
Supporting someone with incurable cancer
……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
To connect with a group click on the “Bold Italic Links” I have created above …… then once the group page opens click in the [ Black - Click to Join - Banner ] that appears at the bottom of the page and this will then confirm that you have joined the group.
When you are ready……. you can introduce yourself by putting up your very own post by clicking [ + Create new post] or [ + ] in the top right of the group page.
You can copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
You may find it helpful to call the Macmillan Support Line open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow 3 working days for a reply.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.
Please do get back to me if you need further help navigating the community.
