Mums recently been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer…
I am embarrassed to say I am not coping. I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety and the tablets I’ve been prescribed aren’t working. My whole world is crumbling - I break down all the time and the worst part, truly the worst part, I don’t even have cancer. I wish none of this was happening, I wish that I could fast forward to when this is all over - but how selfish is that especially given she may not be here! I make myself sick sometimes.
I’m looking for advice on how to cope, how to stop falling apart. I want to stop grieving now, given I have nothing to grieve about.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Hello someone more knowledgeable be along soon to point you in the right direction. When I was diagnosed my partner was made aware that Macmillan offered a free counselling service so you may want to follow this with your mum's specialist nurse. Best wishes to you and family xx
As I am the one with an incurable cancer I only know in part how you feel although my wife, two girls and there husband's and my recent four granddaughters how over the many years since I was diagnosed (24 years) developed the ability to live with my diagnosis and we all get on with living with my cancer and not being defined by it.
Check the link above as it has a few links that you may want to follow up on but do get back to me if you need further help.
Hi Sadgirl and I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum, please accept my sincere condolences to you and all your family.
It's coming up to the 3rd anniversary of my mum's death so I can understand the journey you are on.
Talking with others who are navigating this journey can help a lot so you may want to consider joining our dedicated Bereaved Family and Friends Support Group.
There is quite a lot of information in What to do after someone dies and many hospitals have bereavement services who may be able to offer support.
The Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. This service provides practical information, emotional support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing and support all the family.