My husband has just been diagnosed

Hi Penny22 and welcome to the Online Community although I am sorry to hear about your husbands diagnosis. A cancer diagnosis in the family can be such a stressful and challenging time but I do hope you will find the community a safe place to get support and ask your questions.

The Community is divided into support groups (discussion rooms) so can I suggest you consider joining our supportive Prostate cancer and Bone, secondary cancer groups.

These groups ate safe places to talk to others who may have a similar diagnosis, treatment experience, to ask questions and get support.

When it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting someone you may also benefit from joining our general Family and friends and Carers only groups where you will connect with others navigating the same challenges.

If you'd like to connect in with a group click on the Green (Bold) link(s) I have created above. Once the group page opens click on the black banner that says [click to join] at the bottom, or the [Join] button under "Group tools."

You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘new post’ by clicking in the box near the top right with + New or + (Depending on the device you are using) and you are ready to go. You could copy and paste the text from this post into your new post.

Macmillan have many support services so do check out the Macmillan Support Line is open 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00. These services provide cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.

We also have our Ask an Expert section but do allow a few working days for a reply.

Talking to people face to face can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing supporting all the family.

Give me a shout if you need further help.

All the very best.

Hi I am in exactly the same situation! It’s such a shock I’m struggling to accept it- Have you shared the news yet? Is your husband going on hormone therapy? So sorry to hear. Maxxy 

Hi Maxxy, do please join and post in the groups I have highlighted above as these are good places to talk with many others who are navigating this journey.

Yeah, hormone therapy. Hit a PET scan on Friday. 
feels like a black cloud is over our head. 
im hope we get more info next week. Xxx

Good it’s awful. It consumes every bit of life. How do you ever get used it. We’ve told family and work , but just don’t want to speak to anyone. My husband is dealing with it much better than I am. How are doing. Where are you up to with treatment etc. it’s good to know your not in your own xx

Hi Penny 22

I can empathise with your feelings.  My husband was diagnosed with terminal prostate cancer 16 months ago.  For the first three months I felt nauseous every morning, my appetite dropped and I felt helpless.  Then I had a long stable period but the nausea and feelings of helplessness have returned recently.  We have told our three sons and most close relatives.  I have two close friends who support me.  However my husband does not want 'the village' to know as he wants to spend his time living...  I understand this but find it difficult because I get support from talking about problems.  So I have decided to have counselling.  For me it is best to talk about things.  So my advice. would be to consider what support would work for you. It might or might not be counselling.  It might be being part of a group.  It might be making sure you have time for yourself - eg yoga or walking or sewing... Take care of yourself