Hello,
This is a new adventure for me and my family, one adventure we hoped we'd never need to explore... but it's happening.
It's all so new we don't even have the official diagnosis yet, but we all know that cancer will be part of it.
We all have the same common goal, to support our mum after all this is all about her, what we don't have is the "one size fits all" way of coping and this is leading to arguing and we haven't even taken the first step... whatever the first step is.
Some of us like to know the facts and ask questions, others don't and that's understandable. But how do we as a family make that work to support our mum, but also support each other? Do we not need to ask questions?
I do, it's my way of coping, but the rest of my family don't want these questions asked. What do I do?
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm sorry to read that you think your mum is likely to be given a cancer diagnosis shortly and this will be a very difficult time for the whole family.
The online community is divided up into different support groups so can I recommend that you join the family and friends group which is a safe and supportive place to share your worries and emotions and find out how others helped a loved one with cancer.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When your mum has a diagnosis it would be great if you could pop something about this and her treatment into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
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"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
Tinkerbel Blue,
Thank you, and thank you for sharing your journey I do wish you well for the future.
I'm going to take your advice and ask the questions.
You are all so wonderful and special just for being you.
Take care. 
