Hi I’m new to the group I have been looking at the posts trying to see if anyone else feels the same. I was diagnosed with grade 2 invasive lobular carcinoma on the 20th July. I’ve had a lumpectomy but I have to have more surgery in a couple of weeks as they didn’t have clear margins. It all feels like a blur and I’m struggling with it sinking in. I feel guilty when I think im thinking about it to much, there are so many ladies and gentlemen who have it worse. I’m struggling to know how I should be feeling.
I don’t know what stage my cancer is although they did say it was early stages when I was diagnosed they said it was 16mm but after surgery they are now saying it was 40mm. Should I be asking what stage it is or do they tell me this later on. I have so many questions going round my head. Sorry if this seems all muddled but that’s how my head feels at the moment.
Hi 007H welcome to the forum and sorry to hear how challenging things are for you right now.. How to feel? Now there's a question and when you find the answer let us know there is no one answer that fits all and so its ok to not feel ok and its ok to feel ok if that makes sense? Also those feelings can change for day to day, so just to reassure you that you are quite normal.
Iy is not unusual for them to have to go in again especially with Lobular Breast Cancer and mine was the same, its the type that they often don't always know how big the area affected is until they get it out . Its also normal to have loads of questions and we know exactly what you will be feeling so ask away and there are lots of us around so I know for sure others will be along soon to offer some advice.
I'm inserting the link that will take you straight to the Breast Cancer thread where if you posted your question folks will see that and you can have a look around the threads and see if any of the advice is helpful or useful for you. Just click on the link .
Please don't be afraid to ask any questions that you have there is not much one of us can't answer .
Thank you for replying so quickly and for reassuring me that my confusing feelings are normal. I guess my first question would be will I be told what stage my cancer is? My 2nd question is by the time I have my 2nd surgery it will be 6 weeks since my first surgery and I’m worried this is giving more time for the cancer to grow??
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