Hello

Hi Goldinggirl,

All my kids know yes.. they are grown and I think old enough to know the truth, they are 19,17,14. My mum their nan went through breast cancer too 20 years ago now and she made a full recovery.. I keep saying that was so long ago and medication has moved on so much in the past few years that I should have hope with Dad, but I struggling truth be told.. I need to shake the sadness xx

Do you have a friend to talk to? I don’t have anyone that’s why I joined up on here, that’s good to hear about your mum. I don’t know how you shift it, how are you when your around him do you feel that your sadness is when your not in his company?and that’s when you can show it? Xx

Hi  and welcome to the community.

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All the very best ((hugs))

I have friends but I feel I dont want to burden them with it all, not a real close friend tbh.  I try and be up beat and jokey around him and then I break down when I leave... xx
I feel as though I am on my last straw, like I am hanging on trying to be strong but feel so weak!  (and then I feel guilty so guilty, cos its dad thats fighting :( ) xx

You shouldn’t feel guilty though, your aloud to deal with what’s happening in your own way. It’s understandable that you feel so very upset and you breakdown.  Your only human and we all struggle and from what you have said it’s more than just a small deal with to deal with. Your on here and explaining that you feel guilty, you really shouldn’t be so hard on yourself. Being strong for everyone is hard work and emotionally draining, your aloud to have a cry and breakdown, I personally think it’s better to let it out. Not much help I know but your being strong for Dad and that’s the main thing your doing amazing xx