Not really sure what to say.
Was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer 18mths ago and am coming to the end of my treatment. My mum only a couple of weeks ago was diagnosed with terminal cancer but they are still unable to find the primary cancer. My boyfriend and I have recently broken up and it wasn’t amicable. Had so much to deal with over the past year and now to know I will be loosing my mum has broken me. I need to stay strong for her but at the moment I can barely make it through the day without wanting to give up myself. Been waiting for counselling for nearly 3 months and things are just getting worse
Hi and welcome to the Online Community.
I am so sorry to read about your diagnosis, your mum and all the other challenges you are facing but I hope you will find the support available in the community helpful at this difficult and challenging time.
Talking with others who are walking the same type of path will help you navigate this unwanted journey.
The New to Community is like the Community Reception area and as there are many cancer types and experiences so likewise the Community has many support groups so can I recommend you start by joining our supportive Breast cancer and Life after cancer groups as these will be good places for you to connect with other folks who may be on the same pathway.
Navigating the community will depend on the device you are using. To join a group just click on the green link above then scroll down and choose 'click to join' or 'join' on the page that opens.
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You could just copy and paste the text from this your first post and you can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
When it comes to the practical challenges of supporting your mum you may benefit from talking with others caring for family and friends so can I recommend that you join our supportive Carers only and Supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others supporting family and friends
It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service provides lots of cancer information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
All the very best ((hugs))
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