My father has been moved to the palliative care team at a good local hospital, we as a family want to get him home but his condition is deteriorating quite quickly. It seemed he would come home today but a care plan has not been prepared in time.
We've been given conflicting advice on his needs. Either to discharge himself and hope the GP will be able to respond quickly enough or to wait until the hospital catch up.
His mental state is foggy and the responsibility for any decisions is falling very much on the shoulders of my mother which is an awful place for her to be at the moment.
As much as I and friends want to be involved I'm unsure where to go from here - I think mum would prefer the thought of a hospice but as I mentioned above - have we left it to late?
I understand nothing is perfect but for the family to have regrets about my father's passing would be very raw for Mum. Things are strained as it is I could do with some advice...
Thanks for reading.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community but sorry that you had to find us but I am especially sorry to hear about your father's diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be very challenging but talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer support journey will help you all navigate this difficult time so can I recommend you join our supportive Carers only group as this is the place to connect with others dealing with the practical challenges of supporting your father but also the various family dynamics something like this brings along.
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service provides lots of cancer information, support, practical advise, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have Cancer Nurse Team in our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
All the very best.
