New to breast cancer and struggling to talk about it

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Hello All,

I'm new to this group and cancer.

I got diagnosed with stage 1,  grade 2 breast cancer on 13 May, so over a month ago. Initially I was told it was one small tumor and surgery provisionally booked for 16 June. My consultant referred me for a MRI scan to check for more tumors because I have dense breasts so the mamogram wasn't effective. Unfortunately the MRI detected another area of concern, so I have had further ultrasound and biopsy's taken and am now waiting for the results on this. My surgery is now postponed to 7 July, and I'm due to see my consultant on Thursday to be told the new plan. Hopefully the new area doesn't change things too much.

Some of the time I've been coping well and have tried to be mindful to live in the moment, and almost refuse to believe this is real!

But, I have found it difficult to talk about my diagnosis with anyone other than my partner. I can put on the brave face, but its so draining. I'm finding the uncertainty so hard and am struggling to sleep as I frequently wake up with anxiety. I haven't told many people yet.

When I'm struggling, I literally don't want to speak with anyone other than my partner. I have no interest in small talk, and to be honest no interest in anyone else, or much at all.  Its like I'm in a parallel world and its only me that matters, so I just don't want to do anything not in my narrow channel of what's necessary or that I want to do.

Do other people feel like this? 

I don't yet know if I will need Chemo, or just radio therapy, and I am just so nervous and worried about what is to come, how ill I will be, how much time off work I will need, the impact on my kids and partner. All the uncertainty is the worst.

So I thought I would join the group so I can dip in and see how others are getting on etc.

Best wishes to you all X

  • Hi  and welcome to the Online Community but sorry that you had to find us.I am especially sorry to hear about your Breast Cancer diagnosis.

    A cancer diagnosis can be very challenging but talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer journey will help you navigate this difficult time so can I recommend you join our supportive Breast cancer group as this will be a good place to connect with patients and family on the same cancer treatment pathway.

    To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.

    You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'. 

    It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service provides lots of cancer information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.

    We also have Cancer Nurse Team in our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.

    To find information covering diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers check our Online Information and Support Section

    All the very best ((hugs))

    Mike (Thehighlander)

    It always seems impossible until its done - Nelson Mandela

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