Diagnosed with primary breast cancer in March following routine Mammogram. Multiple biopsies, sentinel node biopsy and two rounds of surgery later - results in 10 days - I am struggling to be Ok. It's what everyone expects but I am not 'strong', a 'warrior', a 'fighter' or an 'amazing woman'. I have breast cancer and although physically well I am emotionally drained, mostly from trying to be 'ok' for the sake of my family. Is this normal?
Hi and welcome to the Online Community but sorry that you had to find us. I am especially sorry to hear about your Breast Cancer diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis can be very challenging and yes, it’s all rubbish and totally ok not to be ok.
It may help you if you can talk with others who are walking the same type of cancer journey will help you navigate this difficult time so can I recommend you join our supportive Breast cancer group as this will be a good place to connect with patients and family on the same cancer treatment pathway.
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service provides lots of cancer information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have Cancer Nurse Team in our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
To find information covering diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers check our Online Information and Support Section.
All the very best ((hugs))
Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community
I'm sorry to hear that you were diagnosed with breast cancer a few months ago but you've come to the right place where you won't hear people saying things like "you need to be strong" or "you're so brave", etc, etc. Why is it that all these sayings come out when you have cancer? You wouldn't dream of saying to someone who has any other form of illness that they need to be brave, or positive, or eat their porridge standing on their head because the next door neighbour's, sister's best friend was cured by doing that!!
I'll get off my soap box now!
How you are feeling is perfectly normal and as the community is divided up into cancer specific support groups I'm going to recommend that you join the very friendly breast cancer group which is a great place to ask questions, share experiences and get support with the added bonus that no-one will expect you to "be strong" or positive all the time.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you feel up to it it would be great if you could tell us about your diagnosis and treatment in your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
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