My name is Ian and the ex wife had been given a year to live. She doesn’t want the kids to find out but I can’t see that happening or agree with it. Karen wants me to deal with it when she passes away. I don’t even know where to start. They live in a different county so will need to live with me. How do I approach Karen and what do I say to the kids . 12 & 14 . Obviously we all need support
Hi Ian and welcome to the online community
I'm sorry to read that your ex-wife has cancer and it's normal that this should have a wider effect on the whole family.
The online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the supporting someone with incurable cancer group where you can connect with others who have someone living with cancer.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
You might find this information from Macmillan on talking to children and teenagers helpful in preparing for a conversation with your children.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
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