My old dad has stage 4 emphysema and now has been diagnosed with lung cancer , doctors can’t give him radiotherapy or chemotherapy because his lungs are so badly damaged with the emphysema, it just breaks my heart seeing him so ill and wasting away , I’m feeling so helpless , I can’t do anything I just don’t know what to do anymore, I know this year will probably be the last time my dad will see my birthday and the last time I will spend Christmas with him ,it kills me knowing my dear old dad who I call my friend is slowly slipping away and I can’t do a single thing about it , I’m really struggling to come to terms with what’s happening
Hi Dellleeds and welcome to the Online Community but sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis and the extremely difficult time you are having.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be very challenging and worrying in so many ways but you may find talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer support journey will help you navigate this difficult time so can I recommend you join our supportive Carers only and supporting someone with incurable cancer groups where you will connect with others supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available.
This service provides lots of cancer information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have Cancer Nurse Team in our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
All the very best ((hugs))
Hi delleeds so sorry to hear about your dad, I'm in the same boat my dad has stage 4 lung cancer that cannot be treated. It's breaking my heart everyday knowing we dont have long left with him and watching him get more and more ill, coming to this page has made me realise I'm not alone, none of us are alone. I hope you find strength from this page 
Hi ele27
thank you for your nice reply,and I’m so sorry your going through the same horrible pain.
this is my first time here and I feel so much better knowing there is support here,and a few nice words really helps.
my heart goes out to your family ele27
