I am 38 Years old with my own son who is 11 my mum is my best friend she has been complaining about pain in her back and shoulder since December but the doctors kept telling her there was nothing wrong. last sunday we called an ambulance as she was i so much pain, she was bleeding from the kidneys to her stomach. They did an operation to to the kidneys bleeding and we later found out that it was kidney cancer and secondary lung cancer, they said they cannot do any treatment for 2 months as te kidney needs to repair from the operation. They mentioned life expectancy is a year . i cannot cope with this information how do i live without my mum!! im so angry that the doctors never picked up on it sooner i feel anger i can eat i cant sleep and i just scream all the time. I know i need to be strong but i just do not know how i can be i need advise and help to channel my strength so i can make the best of the time i have with my mum. Please help a very scared daughter.
Hi and welcome to the Online Community but sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about your mum’s diagnosis. This us such a hard time and it must have come me as such a shock ((hugs))
A cancer diagnosis in the family can be challenging in so many ways but you will find talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer treatment journey will help you navigate this difficult time so can I recommend you join our supportive Kidney cancer and Lung, secondary cancer groups as these will be a good places to connect with patients and families going through the same type of cancer treatments.
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
When it comes to the practical challenges of supporting someone you may benefit from talking with others caring for family and friends so do check out our Carers only and supporting someone with incurable cancer group groups as you will connect with others supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.
It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service can give lots of cancer information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
We also have Cancer Nurse Team in our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
To find information covering diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers can be found on our Online Information and Support Section.
All the very best ((hugs))
