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Hi  and welcome to the Macmillan Online Community but sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about your husbands cancer diagnosis. Yes it can be a shock, I still remember finding out over 22 years ago.

A cancer diagnosis in the family can be challenging in so many ways but talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer journey can help you navigate this difficult time.

You don’t mention what type of cancer your husband has so do look through our list of Cancer specific groups. Once you find the cancer type group, join the group using the 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.

You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'. 

When it comes to the practical challenges of supporting someone you may benefit from talking with others caring for family and friends so do check out our Family and friends group as you will connect with others supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.

It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service can give lots of cancer information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have Cancer Nurse Team in our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.

To find information covering diagnosis, treatments and pages covering most types of cancers can be found on our Online Information and Support Section. 

All the very best ((hugs))

HI Flower59   so sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis.

My husband was diagnosed last year (26 August) and it's a shock I don't think I'll ever forget. He's now 51 and was a marathon runner - super fit - so it came as a bolt out of the blue.

I don't have any words of wisdom here to offer but can say that this online community  including the carer's forum has been a Godsend. Friends and family are loving and supportive  but they don't "get it". On here, there are sadly a lot of us who "get it" but can also be a great support network as you both make your way through this journey.

If you're anything like me, you'll go through every emotion in the book and beat yourself up about it. Don't. These emotions are perfectly normal and the tears are a sign of resilience. 

Hang in there. Stay strong

love n hugs

Wee Me xx