My dad was given 6-12 months in feb with lung cancer and I a week, he’s gone from making his way upstairs and taking home self to bed. To now I a hospital bed down stair, incontinent, not eating and barley drinking.
it’s happens so fast I’m struggling with it I’ve gone from full time working to full time caring
changing his bum
changing his conveen
Washing him
trying get drink down him and his meds
we have district nurses daily visits and Marie curie night sits . He’s been sitting in his chair all week for parts of day as that what he loves, but today has not moved from bed.
just wondering how long I’ve got and I have to keep leaving the room as it’s so upsetting and don’t want him to se me upset.
inlook at him when his arms are flailing and think just go in your sleep and then feel guilty cause he has lucid moments and makes me laugh and I think no stay.
it’s such a cruel illness long and bowl 2 primary’s
Hi and welcome to the Macmillan Online Community but sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis. It is indeed a cruel illness.
A cancer diagnosis in the family like this can be challenging in so many ways but talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer journey can help you navigate this difficult time.
The Community is organised into support groups and when it comes to the practical challenges of supporting someone during these times you may benefit from talking with others caring for family and friends so do check out our Carers only and supporting someone with incurable cancer groups as you will connect with others supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.
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It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service can give lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
All the very best
