Hi everyone
My Dad recently passed away after battling an aggressive form of bladder cancer which despite multiple ops unfortunately spread until they could do no more.
Weve had the funeral now but it is extremely difficult to shake the memories of the last year or so. Especially his last few days in hospital before he passed away. Due to covid it was actually the first time I had been able to be so close to him in over a year.
My Dad kept his diagnosis, health, wellbeing very close to his chest as he didnt want any of us kids to worry about him. Having seen both his mum and dad die of cancer I know he didnt want to put any of us through the same thing. In some respects I wish he had just been able to be honest and tell us what was happening rather than keeping us in the dark.
I guess the reason I have joined here is that I never really sought any guidance around my Dads cancer diagnosis. It would be really good to speak to people who have been throu a similar experience and perhaps help to guide me over the next few months. I'm not quite sure how to process everything that happened to him, how he must have really been feeling and how to try to let my worries and anxieties go. Those last few days were absolutely awful for all of us. It must've been terrible for him but I know he is at peace now. God bless you Dad. He was such a very very brave man.
Hi and a very warm welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to read that your dad recently passed away but you've come to the right place for support.
The online community is divided up into different support groups so I'm going to recommend that you join the bereaved family and friends group where you can share your feelings with others who have lost a loved one to cancer.
To join just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens. You can then introduce yourself and post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
If you have any difficulty navigating the community just drop me a reply and I'll be pleased to help.
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