My sister has terminal cancer and I’m finding hard . I want to support the family but I cannot do it alone
I want her boys to get support as they both late 20s and I worry for them when things get harder
Hi and warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about your sisters diagnosis.
A terminal cancer diagnosis in the family can be challenging in so many ways but talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer treatment journey will help you navigate this difficult time.
The Community is organised into support groups and when it comes to the practical challenges of supporting someone you may benefit from talking with others caring for family and friends so do check out our Carers only and supporting someone with incurable cancer groups as you will connect with others supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
It is difficult understanding the best way to support children and that's not surprising really but you might like to have a look at this information from Macmillan on understanding childrens' reactions and also this on talking to children when an adult has cancer. You can also download, or order a paper copy, of this booklet.
It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service can give lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
All the very best
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