Hiya,
My dad was diagnosed with Terminal Cancer just after christmas. We had no signs other than he was loosing weight until it was too late. The cancer started in his lung and now its in his brain, lymph nodes, adrenal gland and liver.
He is only 56, I’m 30 and suddenly becoming a carer why im looking after my 2 and 6 year old is soo hard!
Anyway, yesterday we had a visit with the dr and they are stopping the chemotherapy due to Dads health deteriorating. It was the worst moment of my life being in that room why the Dr asked Dad where he would like to die and we filled out his wishes and respect form.
We are now at the almost “waiting point” with district nurse coming in once a week to start with because hes still up and about and looking after himself. He chose to die at home so I guess when things get worse they will up the care and equipment needed for that.
I haven’t had any support, don’t know where to even look for it to be honest. I feel very alone at the monent, I feel overwhelmed, I feel like no one understands which is what led me to this page.
Anyway thats me!
Love to you all Sarah x
Hi Sarah and warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis and the ongoing challenges you and the family are facing.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family brings many questions but talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer journey will help you navigate this challenging time.
The Community is organised into support groups and zi see you have found our supportive Carers only group but can I also highlight our supporting someone with incurable cancer group as you will connect with others walking the same journey supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.
It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week and it's free to call on 0808 808 00 00 have a look by Clicking here to see what is available and we also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
All the very best
