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FormerMember
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Hi Guys,

my dad was diagnosed with Stage 3 Esophageal Cancer nearly 3 years ago. He had the surgery and was cancer free for 12 months then docs discovered metastatic nodules/tumors in his lung and 2 in his abdomen. He now has a tumor that is pushing on his bowel and blocking it, they have put a stent in.

My dad was given only weeks to live around 2 weeks ago and has ceased any treatment. He is still up and walking around (with his walker), pottering around in his room (i built in under my house for him).  Even goes to the corner store on his mobility scooter.

 

He eats a small amount for dinner and sometimes has a snack during the day. 

 

Since he has moved in with me, i have noticed a decline in his health. He's 36kgs, very weak, tired a lot of the time, gets out of breath very easily, has trouble sleeping even with his sleeping tablets. I now have to put his pants, shoes and socks on. I see the tell tale signs that death may be near. During the day however, he is quite active. 

 

My question is, can someone be weeks from death and still be quite active? It's worth noting that his oncologist upped his steroid dose to 2 tablets every morning from 1/2 tablet, informing him that this may allow him to live an extra week or 2. Is this why he seems to have more energy during the day?

I'm so confused as I have been mentally preparing for him to have only weeks and he seems to be ok?

I've been trying to google if this is common in people close to death but no answers. Hoping someone can shed some light.

Thank you

 
  • Hi  and warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community although sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about your dad’s diagnosis. 

    Having walked with a few friends on their terminal journeys, yes it’s amazing what someone in this position can continue to do, one good friend was given a few weeks but was still doing his garden a few months later.

    A cancer diagnosis like this brings many questions on all the family but talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer journey will help you navigate this challenging time.

    The Community is organised into support groups so can I recommend you join our supportive Carers only and supporting someone with incurable cancer groups as you will connect with others walking the same journey supporting family and friends through their cancer journey.

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    It’s always good to talk and the Macmillan Support Services provides lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear.

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    Mike (Thehighlander)

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